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Catherine Townsend
A sex and dating columnist, Catherine Townsend published her first novel Sleeping Around: Secrets of a Sexual Adventuress in 2007, and followed up with Breaking The Rules: Confessions of a Bad Girl in 2008. She also appeared in How To Have Sex After Marriage on Five, and is now writing a third book. Born in Arkansas, Catherine was a gossip columnist for New York Magazine before moving to London in 2003, since when she has had a very interesting - and pretty public - private life...
After years of blubbering politicians and their crocodile tears, it's pretty ironic that a comedian has set the standard for serious public confessions. David Letterman's straight-talking admission that he's done 'creepy' things, while not his finest hour, was done the right way. No BS public apology, no mention of a higher power, no miserable-looking wife wringing her hands while being forced to stand by her man in the background. He told us what happened (to a sympathetic audience), on his terms, and hopes to move on.
Of course, the press is still trying to dig up dirt--most recently about a so-called secret bedroom that sources are calling 'the bunker' (it's probably closer to a fold-out couch!) But really, if he has had other consensual affairs with staff members, who cares? He cheated because the opportunity was there, and found a pool of willing women after spending intense 15-hour days with them. He's an entertainer, not a politician--so he has no responsibility to maintain a standard of morality. Though to be honest, I respect Dave more than most politicians. Hey, at least he's not a hypocrite.
Of course, the press is still trying to dig up dirt--most recently about a so-called secret bedroom that sources are calling 'the bunker' (it's probably closer to a fold-out couch!) But really, if he has had other consensual affairs with staff members, who cares? He cheated because the opportunity was there, and found a pool of willing women after spending intense 15-hour days with them. He's an entertainer, not a politician--so he has no responsibility to maintain a standard of morality. Though to be honest, I respect Dave more than most politicians. Hey, at least he's not a hypocrite.
I'm in LA for a few days, but I was really interested to read The Frisky's take on whether or not you should tell a friend if you suspect that their partner has been cheating. I don't know if it's just my social circle, but my American and UK friends seem to be on completely opposite sides of this debate. My American friends all say they would want to know, while my UK pals almost universally wouldn't. They say that what happens between couples isn't any of my business, and that if the person getting the bad news chooses to believe the cheater, I could lose the friendship (this article calls this phenomenon 'shoot-the-messenger syndrome').
This is all true (and I have lost a friendship because I told someone I saw her man kissing someone else, which he denied...) but I still think that I would tell someone if I knew that their partner was screwing around. Because, at the end of the day, I would want someone to tell me.
This is all true (and I have lost a friendship because I told someone I saw her man kissing someone else, which he denied...) but I still think that I would tell someone if I knew that their partner was screwing around. Because, at the end of the day, I would want someone to tell me.
